Losing Focus

Its been quite some time since i have been thinking of coming back here and continuing from where i left. Big sorry for the gap, but will have to commit that it was very much required. All this while what happened was that i was wandering in the "world of lost focus". Yup! it sounds silly, but thats what happened to me, thats what happens to everyone among us. For the sake of saying...we are working our best on whatever comes to us, but if you can peep deep enough into yourself, you'l agree that you are almost lost everyday...being at work and as well as when you are out from it. Company of like minded people, is perhaps the only place where you are yourself, where you relax speaking and working your mind. When you are in such an environment, you are in complete peace with your head, your mind is bubbling with ideas, and you have solutions to all problems (or atleast most of them)...coz thats only when your mind stays focused.

At such a time, when you speak about an idea that u think is great, perhaps thats the idea, the thought, you want to work on, for the rest of your lives. Most times, that is the ultimate desire you want to fulfill, the only place where you want to invest your best efforts.

Today, I'll talk about training ourselves to come that point, recognising and reaching the focus point. Where to start? Lemme start with my journey for the duration i've been disconnected with you all. From quite a long i knew that, what i was doing professionally is not what i'm made for. I had a dream of building up a Lounge of my own. I used to picturise everything about it day in and night out....the place, the interiors, the furniture, the colors around, the cuisine, the crockery, the music, lightings and what not. I'm still engulfed by a huge smile as am writing these lines. But guess what, you dont go about it just like that. I cannot leave my day job and become a bartender somewhere to learn the basics of restaurant business. I had to first convince myself about the plan, then my friends and family...then only could i take the first step. As they say "if you cant sell your idea to your family n friends, then its not going to be successful outside either". So, how do i go about making myself sure about the thought thats eating my energies every single hour?

I started looking for people who have made it big on their own (my begining stage). I started reading all kinds of newspapers, online articles, business books, autobiographies of successful men and so on. I never stopped. I looked for ideas, how people decided to do something, how they gathered the initial knowledge required and the investments, how they went about convincing themselves and the world around about their decisions, how bad mistakes they made, how huge risks they took, how badly they got burned, how they recovered their failures and losses and so on....everything about starting and maintaining a difficult journey. Believe it or not, it took me one and half years of reading and interacting to find that one idea, my passion, my goal of life. It was a tough and painful wait. Towards the end of this tenure of 1.5 years, i used to ask one question to my Lord everytime "what have you made me for? what is my purpose of life oh Lord?" He kept me going in his own way of motivating me to look for the answers myself and i cooperated him, i never gave up. He made sure that i was in complete complacence with whatever decision i would arrive at. All the brain-fusing days n nights, full of madness and dumbstruck search...took me to one decision...my target...the career that i want to pursue for the rest of my life! I found it! You seem to be happy to hear that, right? :)

Well ye! its tiring and many a times frustrating, but its worth it. The decision you arrive at should not be something about which you may someday wake up and say "i dont want to do this anymore" That would be a failure of all your efforts. Just to assist my point, lemme tell you that the goal that i found out was not to become a restaurant owner!!! I questioned one day 'lets say i made it big in restaurant business one day, i own the biggest and best lounge in town, have employed people to take care of everything. Now what? What is it that i would look upto, everyday morning when i wake up to get ready for work?' To be frank, i couldnt think further. That should not happen with anyone who aspires to have a job of his dreams.

So, the point is that you have to sit on the matter. Your head should be given an alternative treatment of 'thinking hard on the matter' and then 'completely forgetting about it'. Let your conscience gather all the raw material and then let the unconscience process it to find solid responses. Thats how it will work. During these one and half years, i thought of doing all sorts of businesses. It was crazy. I would come up with atleast one idea of the "final business" every week! Heheh. So, if you have figured out what should you do next, then let me give you one plain advice...take it or not, your wish.
Every big shot who has made a very successful career (doesent matter what business), has always stressed to "choose and engage in a business where s/he was an above average at the core". Like in my case, i had been advised time and time again that i should work in some restaurant for atleast half to one decade and then start off with my own setup, only because i have no inherent knowledge or skill of anything related to the restaurant business. What was the end result? For almost whole of those 1.5 years, i kept the thought of owning a Lounge as my ultimate goal, but varied myself to look for a better option where "i would be above average at the core" :) And one fine day, it struck me! just like that! Yup! it will happen to you too, my sweetheart! Just start off with an undying thirst to look for the answers, dont dare give up. Keep going and you'l reach that point one day when you would be expecting it the least :) Kick off champs! Be focused!